Comments for My Dissolute Life

Comment on Why I write sex (part 2, after a fashion) by Brigit Delaney

Brigit Delaney — Wed, 22 May 2013 03:06:26 +0000

I don’t disagree with the motivations you listed. I am a bit of a voyeur (which is why I like to read sex blogs) and a bit of an exhibitionist (which is partly why I write one)…but the real reason why I do it is that writing holds me more accountable to my goals. When I started my blog, it was with the intent to write more erotica, to read more, to focus on my sex life and improving it, and to learn. When I blog, it becomes a daily thing. And because my husband was a daily reader, there were conversations. It was like letting him read my diary. And then I gained more readers…and it began to feel like a community. I like that. It feeds my self-concept.

Comment on Why I write sex (part 2, after a fashion) by N. Likes

N. Likes — Wed, 22 May 2013 02:54:24 +0000

Sorry – that last sentence of yours is what I meant by “attention whore,” also. Not critically, just descriptively, perhaps with a bit of the superiority – the sense that others can benefit from my perspective – thrown in as well.

I don’t mean this as a diss, at all. In saying how I characterize those motivations in me, not in you.

Comment on Why I write sex (part 2, after a fashion) by N. Likes

N. Likes — Wed, 22 May 2013 02:51:15 +0000

Um, what do you mean you’re not a sex blogger? You posted about squirting two days ago, no? Or is that somehow not sex blogging/blogging about sex? And why did/do you do that? Why do you write about sex in whatever venues you do?

Comment on Why I write sex (part 2, after a fashion) by Liza

Liza — Tue, 21 May 2013 22:34:17 +0000

Some of them may have been motivations for me at one time, but then I felt overexposed and dirty. Now they aren’t, and I realize that since I don’t really blog anymore I’m not really a sex blogger. But a number of the reasons on your list really rubbed me the wrong way and helped me put a finger on why sex blogging has become a chore rather than a pleasure. Which is not to say that I don’t write sex. I do. A lot. But now I do it in other venues, and I hope that more people will see it and be engaged with my ideas and creativity.

Comment on Why I write sex (part 2, after a fashion) by Muse (@curiousmuse1)

Muse (@curiousmuse1) — Tue, 21 May 2013 21:52:22 +0000

Oooh. That makes me a sex blogger (lapsed)! Referring back to original post many of the motivations directly relate only to writing only about your own sex life so don’t take into account erotic fiction authors or product reviewers or erotic painters/photographers maybe?
For me; it’s about exploration. Of ideas, of characters, of experiences I may or may not have had. May or may not want to have. (and yes, I write subjects as a way of trying to fathom why anyone would!). And the reason I do that online? Originally, a challenge to myself to be less coy, shy, closeted, to actually articulate my curiousity about all things sexual. Being online also allowed others to comment and that extended the challenge. In reality I’ve found a group of friends who have been supportive, funny, challenging, and who have extended my imagination and my experience. Unexpected.
I’m not writing now. I may write again, I don’t know. But as those friends have become people I have met then the inclination in me to be private as I am, acutely so, in my day to day, has got in the way of my freedom as Muse. I am trying to work out how I feel about that. Whether I want to hide away again.

Comment on Why I write sex (part 2, after a fashion) by N. Likes

N. Likes — Tue, 21 May 2013 21:36:15 +0000

My definition is simple: a sex blogger is someone who blogs about sex. Sorry – I should have made that clear.

Comment on Why I write sex (part 2, after a fashion) by Muse (@curiousmuse1)

Muse (@curiousmuse1) — Tue, 21 May 2013 21:33:59 +0000

Have you thought of defining ‘sex blogger’? Is it any blog which has sexual content whether fictional, a diary, practical (product reviews) or artistic imagery etc.? Is it just any blog that needs to include a warning of adult only content? Maybe that’s where I’m getting confused. I only use the term ‘sex blogger’ for those who use their blog as a diary of their own sex lives. Your post suggests it has broader meaning for you.

Comment on Submit by N. Likes

N. Likes — Tue, 21 May 2013 14:30:29 +0000

You may not be. But that doesn’t mean I don’t want your compliance.

Comment on Top ten reasons sex bloggers blog sex by Mina Lamieux

Mina Lamieux — Tue, 21 May 2013 11:08:04 +0000

Except for number 10, I can not identify with any of these. Not anymore, Maybe years ago when I first started blogging. Number 2 makes me ill and centers primarily as the reason why I am pulling away from sex blogging/bloggers.

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