Recently, TED posted a second talk of hers, this one entitled “Rethinking Infidelity.” It’s another great talk, in which she declines to demonize anyone or anything, and simply engages, non-judgmentally, compassionately, with a few facts:
– Infidelity is common
– There are two commandments out of ten relating to it (one, as she says, about doing it; the other, about thinking about it)
– Good people in good marriages can be unfaithful
– Infidelity isn’t one thing
– It’s far more productive to wonder what we get out of infidelity than to judge it
– Infidelity is brutally, brutally painful.
This all seems about right to me. I enjoyed watching this talk. I hope you do, too.