Oct 302013
 
The douchebag and the teen party

Maryland Attorney General, Doug Gansler, over the summer found himself the host of a party filled with his son’s underaged friends, drinking (heavily, it appears) in celebration of their recent graduation from high school. (Gansler is the dude in the white shirt, snapping a photo with his phone!) More recently, when the picture below (on […]

Oct 302013
 

Kinkly.com, a web site I don’t know, just told me I’m a sex blogging superhero. To be clear, I’m #30 on their “Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2013.” A lot of the top thirty are sex toy review web sites, or sex education web sites. Most of us aren’t conventional sex bloggers. But I […]

Oct 302013
 

For reasons that I don’t understand, I’m drawn – more than the average bear – to sociopaths. People whose constitution leaves them unable to feel empathy. My closest childhood friend is one. As are several others who play outsized roles in my mental, intellectual, social, and sexual landscapes. This puzzles me, because empathy is something […]

Oct 292013
 

I’ve written about this phrase before, but my thoughts have evolved. Nowadays, I dish out “good girl” as a compliment happily, freely. (Thanks, V, for teaching me how fun it can be!) I’m still conflicted about it. I don’t like the “daddy” aspects of it. I know they resonate powerfully for many women, but they […]

Oct 282013
 

Your punishment awaits. It’s what you’ve been craving, seeking, demanding, of me. It will be delicious and excruciating, exhausting and energizing. It will come in flashes of intensity, and hours of arousal. You will quiver and tremble, wince and flinch, bruise and mark, please and be pleased. I will use you until I’m through with […]

Oct 282013
 

A white t-shirt, cotton, tight, is pulled down just below her hips, stretched tighter by her thighs, spread just wide enough for her feet to land a few inches wider than shoulder-width, a few inches wider than seems natural, as if she’s spreading them for a reason, thoughtfully, deliberately. Beneath the shirt, opaque black leggings, […]

Oct 262013
 

A familiar feeling: a dance back and forth of approach and avoid. Not me: I’m all approach. But she approaches, avoids, approaches, avoids. I’m a moth. It’s my flame.

Oct 262013
 

Is “sex addiction” real? This question obsesses many – clinicians, people who experience themselves as being out of control of their sexual behavior, spouses, partners, friends. But what does the question even mean? This isn’t the first time I’m writing about the question, and I don’t know if I have anything new to say, but […]

Oct 252013
 

They should be everywhere. There’s no woman who doesn’t look hot in a tiny black dress. Ok. Maybe one or two somewhere, but I fucking love them, especially on white women. The contrast of the black with flesh, the way the color reveals, and obscures, curves, is just too much for me.