One of the challenges of swinging, or polyamory, or non-monogamy, or monogamish-ness, is the simple impossibility of symmetry.
I just started to write a post on the subject – about how sometimes T gets more of what she wants than I do; sometimes, it’s the other way around. About how, on any given night in a swing club, or at a sex party, one of the two members of a couple is gonna have better sex, or be with hotter people, or both. About how that’s just how it goes.
And then I thought to myself, “Hmm, I wonder if I’ve written about this before.”
And it turns out that a little more than nine months ago, I did. Oh well.