Last year I posted seven resolutions: 7. To engage in some “high-concept” swinging.6. To throw myself into more multi-partner swinging.5. To have more encounters with multiple women.4. To get pegged.3. To revisit my experience of gay sex.2. To increase my appetite for straight, aggressive, hard, doggie-style, or up-against-the-wall, or bent-over-the-bed, or what have you, fucking.1. [...]
A funny note about myself. For the vast majority of my life, rightly or wrongly, I believed that – I created the reality that – the only way a woman would find me attractive was if I paid her. In the last couple of years, I’ve traveled in the opposite direction, becoming convinced, for the [...]
Courtesy of L:
I’m just a guy, and, as I’ve written before, we men have fragile egos. Without going too deep into my biography, here are some salient facts about me: I was in my late twenties before the first time I (noticed that I) wasn’t the smartest person in any given room. Obviously, there were at least [...]
When I was a teenager, I remember hearing “Suzanne,” by Leonard Cohen, for the first time. I was haunted – by the sound of Cohen’s voice, by the images in the song. I never became a HUGE fan – I liked his music a lot, but didn’t particularly educate myself either about his life or [...]
In my recent posts on safer sex and monogamy, I struck some nerves, and was less than my best self. I’m sorry. I think I was both insensitive to how my words would be read, and to how the words of commenters – and, in particular, Dumb Domme, were offered. This was my error. I’m [...]
One more thought on the whole safer sex thing: in finance, investors look not at returns, but at risk-adjusted returns. In other words, the question isn’t “how much is investment x likely to make me if all goes well?” but rather, “What is the range of outcomes I possibly could achieve with investment x, and [...]
Preface: I have nothing against monogamy. I often have wished I could be monogamous. My life would have been far simpler, for sure, and possibly happier. I believe there are many people for whom monogamy works, for whom it is right and good. Nothing I write herein is in any way intended to belie that. [...]
I’ve often wondered if and when I would hear from a reader, “Dude, you are just a sex addict, and you’re still acting out. Don’t kid yourself.” Last night, I heard it for the first time in a comment on one of my recent posts on safer sex. Winston is outraged by me, by those [...]
Both here and at Google Plus, a social network I honestly don’t understand, my posts on safer sex seem to have struck at least a few nerves. And I see from several people’s objections to what I wrote that I failed, still, to make my central point. My point is NOT that sexually transmitted infections [...]
